I don't know MS-SQL that well, but I think you can use something like this:
SELECT datepart(year,your_date_column) AS year, datepart(month,your_date_column) AS month, datepart(day,your_date_column) AS day FROM your_date_table
which will return integers representing date stored in your database. Then you can use PHP functions to format the look as you wish...
Boris Belobrad
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