I have the solution.
Ok its not quite what started out trying to do, but the end result is the same
In the page which contains the flash file,
say xmas.php3?xmas_id=4
use the PHP set cookie function to slap that id into a cookie.
Next have a file called getcookie.php3 or something similar, ensuring that the PHP Get_HTTP_HEADERS function is at the top, followed by if statements, hell even a database query, but all based on the value of $xmas_id (which you remember was set in ye olde cookie by xmas.php3). Then encode your strings with rawurlencode() function, echo them and you are almost there.
If you load variables from that file using flash, the cookie then results in the correct output being churned out, thus flash loads dynamic input, based upon a URL based variable.
This took me so long to work out. If you want the files, email me and ill send them to you.
spread the word,
Mikeb