NO WORRIES! This problem is easy. Just refer to the select in the following fashion:
document.frm.elements["mysel[]"].selected
This will work with any of the array inputs as long as there is only one input on the page. Now if you had 2 mysel[]s on the page that is a different problem. Your best be then is to refer to the element ordinally:
<INPUT NAME=mysel[]...
<INPUT NAME=mysel[]...
document.frm.elements[1].selected
This will get the selected index of the second mysel[]. A little trick I do is I use a hidden inputs right before the array input (mysel[]) so that if I don't know where something appears, I can track it down:
<INPUT TYPE=HIDDEN NAME="tracker" VALUE="mysel[0]"
<INPUT NAME=mysel[]...
<INPUT TYPE=HIDDEN NAME="tracker" VALUE="mysel[1]"
<INPUT NAME=mysel[]...
Then I use a javascript function that checks the hidden inputs until the right one is found, and returns it's element index + 1, which in the above case would return 3.