What you will be wanting is to set up a cron job - something your administrator should be able to help with.
As for how to go about it, I'm not familiar with running simultaneously as an Apache module and as a seperate executable - that's another story. It would be preferable if you could call PHP as a separate executable, since then the cron job could look like "php -f sendemail.php", where sendmail.php is the script to send the emails.
If the script has to be run via the web server, then - well, most *nix installations have an http client like lynx sitting around. You can use that to request the server to run the sendemail.php script. A first approximation to the syntax would be "lynx http://www.example.com/sendemail.php"
But in both scenarios, I make no claim to be an expert.