ok the highlight didn't work the way i wanted but
$message = htmlspecialchars($message);
worked perfect.
Two more things... then I'm done. I promise. Say a user inserts <a href="blahbalH">blah</a> or a <BR> or <P> tag... I still want those to convert to html, nothing else though like if they decieded to put in a </table> to screw up the page. How would this be possible?