the /tmp directory has all the permissions on it! (drwxrwxrwt); once the file is created by the mysql dump, the file has "rw-rw-rw-", but the owner is mysql and the group is mysql.
i'm not sure if the problem might be that the process that is trying to delete the file is a php one instead of a mysql one, and therefore the process has no permits on that file.
if this were the problem, how could i fix it? :o(