First connect to mysql server like this:
$server='localhost';
$user='someone';
$passwd='password';
$db=mysql_connect($server,$user,$passwd) or die(mysql_error());
mysql_select_db("yourdb",$db);
Changing and deleting values can be done like this:
// To modify data, use UPDATE and to delete data use DELETE in mysql query
// eg.
// Delete
$query="DELETE FROM tablename WHERE id='3'";
mysql_query($query); // Deletes row which id-field is 3
// Update
$query="UPDATE tablename SET field1='blabla',field2='keukeu' WHERE id='3'";
mysql_query($query); // Modifies fiel1 and field2 in row which id is 3