Nightrunner, I just got a setup running on today on XP (the home game), so it is fresh in my mind.
PHP v 4.3.2
apache v 1.3.24
mysql v 4.0.13-nt
I ran into the exact same symptoms you described, and was about to give up in frustration... I had a system running on NT so, I thought I had a clue
Here is what I did:
#jm around line 197 I added:
LoadModule php4_module c:/php/sapi/php4apache.dll
#(must copy correct version of PHP4TS.DLL to win32 inorder to load)
#jm ~line 280
ServerAdmin myemail at somewhere dot com
#jm ~line 298
ServerName localhost
#jm ~line 306
#DocumentRoot "C:/Program Files/Apache Group/Apache/htdocs"
DocumentRoot "C:/webroot"
#jm ~line 333
<Directory "C:/webroot">
#jm ~line 822
AddType application/x-httpd-php .php
AddType application/x-httpd-php .php3
AddType application/x-httpd-php .php4
AddType application/x-httpd-php-source .phps
end of edits to httpd.conf
It seems to work but I get 2 copies of errors when I restart the server:
[Sun Jul 13 11:58:56 2003] [error] Cannot remove module mod_php4.c: not found in module list
[Sun Jul 13 11:58:57 2003] [error] Cannot remove module mod_php4.c: not found in module list
It is working well enough for my demo.... hope this helps you