PHP runs under the user for Apache, which by default is "nobody".
First question: Make the group for that directory "nobody", and give the group permissions of +rwx (0770). With appropriate permissioning you should have no security worries.
Second question: You can't unless PHP is the owner of the directory.
Third question: You would need to modify the Apache httpd.conf to change the user it (Apache) runs under. This will then filter down to PHP.
I suggest doing the first option.