In the case of pointing to objects or itself, it is not really taking up space for those references. If the entire object is in it that could be serialized. Basicaly I was looking for an already existing php fuction that asks ' how much memory is this item taking up ' rather than a per item grind.
Counting the chars on each element and each tree below that is not what I am looking for but yes, on a small array I suppose that would be viable.
I have searched for a little while, and:
Basically 'No'.