Use FreeBSD man.
If you MUST use linux, I'd go with Gentoo or debian. Red Hat is for little kids.
As far as "software", I'm not sure exactly what you mean, Regarding AMP stuff, I'm running Apache 2.0.48, PHP 4.3.4, MySQL 4.0.16 just swimmingly on FreeBSD (4.9-RELEASE). (Would that be "FAMP"? 🙂 )