Thanks for the ini_set info, that was exactly what I was looking for, and I'm a little surprised I didn't see it before.
I already knew about phpinfo() and it told me exactly where the file was, only problem is that there are no files in the folder it says it is supposed to be in (usr/bin). I'm guessing that it is because the actual path is much higher up on the directory tree where I don't have ftp access while the folder I'm looking in is deeper and specific to my server, but I'm new to the server thing so I'm not really sure.
Anyway, ini_set should put me right where I want to be, thanks again.