Yeah it's a request from a client unfortunately, i'll tell them they just can't do it if I have to but i'd like to at least try and find a solution first.
I know that there are mass e-mail scripts that you can import a list of e-mails and then have it check each one by send a message to the the server and checking if it bounced or not... it doesn't actually send an e-mail just some sort of probe (really no idea). I also believe this is a good way to get your server blacklisted as spammers use the tactic, I was hoping there was some alternative way, I could even send them a welcome e-mail so it isn't considered spam...