here are the links to the questions i asked elsewhere:
http://ghostwire.com/forums/index.php?showforum=3
http://www.sephiroth.it/phpBB/viewforum.php?f=8&sid=3c1737716ac4e943872dc454734f9e77
the thing is that no one answered me and i'm hoping that you guys can.
when i'm building my CMS it's going to be extensable. there is going to be a plug in that will handle a FLV player in flash. currently the only way to even use anything that is flash with PHP is thru XML. and that is just slow slow slow. i wanted a fully featured FLV player that is skinnable and extensable and everything.
thing is that what i THINK flash remoting does might not actually be what it is.
from what i've read so far its that i can code in PHP and control Flash thru the intermediary (PHP). which would be awesome because i could hook up my FLV player to PHP and MySQL.
this is what i'm trying to figure out.
if anyone is wondering this is how an FLV player works:

the way that it works is that there is the flash component (labeled FLash) that is the main controls. it controls what it's playing and what skin is shown with it.
ths skin (labeled skin) is the player controls.
everything else is the media that is played THRU the flash component. it's a great idea where it seperates flash from video/audio components and i think it's actually quite magnificent
bascially what i'm trying to do is something like YouTube.com. you slect a link and then you are broght to one video. and the flash plays that one video and i only need one player. not multiple 😃