I realize this reply will not be of much use to dudesweetradica at this point, since the post is dated 2006 and I'm replying in 2009. However, in case anyone else surfs by, there is a way to change your settings on a hosted site, or at least it should work.
Simply create a text file named php.ini and enter:
on the first line. You can space down and add as many PHP variables as you need. You will also need to upload a copy of the php.ini file to every directory you want to use the new values.
As long as your site host has not disabled this ability by banning files with an .ini extension, your host's installation of PHP will first search in the directory for a php.ini file, and if it finds it, the settings specified inside will take precedence to those it retrieves from the host's php.ini file. You can verify that the settings are enabled with by creating a php file and including:
inside, dropping it in the directory you want to check and accessing it via your web browser.