I'm not sure I fully understand, but you're needing to write a query that will select a particular column, giving a certain user_id?
$strSQL = "SELECT " . $column . "
FROM your_table
WHERE
user_id = 7";
That would select $column (could hold color, size, or hair_color) and returns that information from the database for the user with a user_id of 7 (obviously you'll change the user_id for whatever user you're looking up, and probably even use a variable).