okay, heres what i tried, and what worked
putting this info for refrence of those who actually search forums for results
In most cases (apparently) a .haccess file works
php_value upload_max_filesize 50M
But, my server is run as a CGI, so all that gave me was an error, if you try this and it doesnt work, you can try this instead, add a php.ini file to the directory you want affected
upload_max_filesize = 10M
post_max_size = 10M
If neither of those work, then directly edit the php.ini file, if you have access to it, look for the 2 lines in the previous code block