so.... not sure what exactly is wrong but something is...
what happens is that when i build without the fpm i get a php-cgi in the bin directory. and the make install output looks like (in between other lines):
Installing PHP SAPI module: cgi
but if i do install with fpm i get:
Installing PHP SAPI module: fpm
but no php-fpm or similar in the system bin...
there is some basic info on php.net here:
http://www.php.net/manual/en/install.fpm.php
but not much of inspiration...
any help with this would be appreciated...
thanks...