So I've realized what I need is more complicated.
SELECT name, m.member_id, p.member_id, posts, friends_friend_id, last_visit FROM members AS m, pfields_content AS p LEFT JOIN profile_friends ON friends_friend_id='$member_id' WHERE member_group_id='4' GROUP BY m.member_id
What I need is to take 3 tables member, pfields_content I wanna join them ON member_id Then I wanna take them 2 tables and join profile_friends ON friends_member_id The only issue is again if you have no friends it wont find your member_id in profile_friends.
Thinking about it more I only need profile_friends.friends_friend_id='$member_id' But it needs to group member_id and friends_member_id if friends_friend_id=2 then echo yes if anything else echo no