The ISP that I'm with has a 'start database' function on the config screen. If you're ultimately stuck on this issue, they should have a help desk dude who'll be more than happy to answer your question if your e-mail him. My ISP has an online database config utility. There's a really good one at
http://phpwizard.net/projects/phpMyAdmin/
all you need is the info regarding your host, password etc. You should be able to get that from your ISP.
Good luck!