Solving my own problems again =) here is the solution!!!
my linux only supports 2gb files, so
configure mysql using the --with-raid option.
on you large talbes, use this
create table foo (
name text not null) RAID_TYPE=STRIPED RAID_CHUNKS=8;
replace the 8 with how much space you need
i am store about 80million entries, i found that i got about 21million with 2gb so each chunk represents 2gb, 8 x 2 = 168 GB total table size, woohoo.