Use top to look at it while beating up the database with a tool like pgbench (in the contrib directory of the postresql tar ball)
You see that while the postmasters may show 6 Megs in size, the majority of that is "shared" memory. This means that each postmaster is sharing a portion of the 6 megs you see it using with all the other postmasters.
This means that while the first postmaster weighs in at 6 meg, each one after that is really only the difference between that 6 megs and the amount of shared memory each has (typically around 1 meg or so less than the whole.)
On my machine, my postmasters look something like this:
Size: 4492
Shared: 3764
Delta: ~730
All numbers in kilobytes.
So, each new backend only costs me about 730k.
I can prove it by running pgbench with 50 threads. On my box, with no other loads. While the 50 backends are beating away on my box, I show 1.7 Meg free, right after they finish, I show 42 meg free, which, comes out to about 730k*50+5 Megs...